I wrote this as an answer to Anna Koistinen's beautiful show of concern for her brother's.  She got me thinking.  I didn't know how good it could feel for a woman to not only know about our struggles, but to understand us, and commend us for that fight.  And I wanted our sisters to feel the way I felt.  Thank you sisters for fighting, remember to encourage one another, and to build up the men around you.  You would be surprised by what you can do, there are things that only you can do...  If you somehow managed to find me without going through Anna, you might just want to check out what I'm talking about.

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From one of your many brothers who really care,

Are you a woman?

I’m sorry…

I’m not sorry you’re a woman, that’s wonderful.. I’m sorry you don’t believe that. I’m sorry you don’t know you’re wonderful. I’m sorry you don’t know you’re beautiful.

I’m sorry that everything around you tries to tell you you’re never good enough. I’m sorry that you haven’t been protected.

I’m sorry you’re surrounded by men who’s attention you seem to only be able to get by wearing your underwear to the beach, and making sure you shave off every last bit of hair that isn’t where you’re told it’s supposed to be. I’m sorry that dressing with as little clothing as you possibly can/will get men to tell you you’re beautiful, and women to be envious of you. I’m sorry that the clothes you find in stores often don’t appear to be much more than a dust rag.

I’m sorry that every magazine cover, and advertisement has a woman that you think is more beautiful than you flaunting herself on it. I’m sorry they have been airbrushed and pampered by a crew of professionals, the lighting placed on them just right to accent every part of their bodies, and then even then, it wasn’t good enough; so they sent the image to photoshop guru to alter it into a “perfect” work of art of a woman who could never exist. I’m sorry if you starve yourself to look like that. I’m sorry that men look for that.

I’m sorry you’ve been told that sex will get you what you want from a man. His attention and protection. When what you will get from a man who is not a man is the exact opposite. Abuse, criticism, anger, and violence. I’m sorry that it could even be worse. You could get a man who is ashamed of you because you remind him that he failed to keep himself pure for his wife. I’m sorry… This man will throw you away as if you were trash; to cover his shame.

I’m sorry what you’re father’s gave you may have been as bad as any other man who would seek to use you. I’m sorry because you may not have had a father to protect you. I’m sorry if your father, your uncle, your brother’s best friend, or any other man older then you ever took advantage of you. I’m sorry if they used your innocence, your need for security and kind words, from a man, to abuse you.

I’m sorry if they used your insecurities and pointed out the flaws you think you have to break you down so you consent to their will.

I’m sorry if you’ve ever been told not to be angry, or not to cry. I’m sorry if you don’t know how to cry or how to be angry to the point that you cut yourself to deal with emotions that you don’t understand.

I’m sorry no one has protected you, so you have become hardened and you turn to lying to protect yourself.

I’m sorry you have been looking to a man to provide for you what God has already given you.

ENOUGH!!

Not for one moment, for one second, have you ever lacked the love you have always wanted, do not give yourself to men who will do as they please with you. You don’t need that. Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things that you can not see now will be added to you.

Luke 12:7 Indeed, the very hairs of your head are all numbered.

What you want; what you are hoping for is a man who will love you with the love that our Father in Heaven ALREADY HAS FOR YOU!!

Ephesians 5:25 Husbands love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;26 that he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or an such thing, but that it should be holy and without blemish.

There are men who do this, there are men who strive to do this. Who understand that women are people like all the rest and for God to tell all of humanity that He truly loves us he had to lay down his life.

I would lay down my life for the one I love if it would teach her how our God adores her. You can be loved like this!

NO! THAT’S A LIE!!!

YOU ARE LOVED LIKE THIS NOW!!!

No more doubting your worth, hiding from shadows, and listening to lies. Find out what the heart of our Father is for you. For I am persuaded that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us (read YOU) from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord. Romans 8:38-39

You are his beautiful creation that he can present to himself without spot or blemish.

NO!!

You are his beautiful creation HE WILL PRESENT TO HIMSELF WITHOUT SPOT OR BLEMISH!!!

SEEK HIM!!!

Romans 8:28 And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are called according to his purpose.

Phil 1:6 Being confident in this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ:

Hebrews 12:1 Wherefore seeing we also are compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us,2 Looking to Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God.

Put away everything that your heart tells you separates you in your mind from your God so you can feel the love He loves you with NOW, and embrace the end to your sorrow. Please!!

He poured himself out for you, he bled out, because he is ravished by his adoration for you because he wants to protect your heart, because he wants you to know now that you ARE LOVED.

NOW!

This life shows us the ends of selfishness. You have felt what the selfishness of others can do to you, you have caused that suffering for others.

You don't need the love of a man.  It will never, ever, be enough for you. So many women hate themselves because they see their men working themselves to death or until they simply give up because their girlfriend or spouse is never satisfied.  Women think there is something wrong with them. Men think there is something wrong with them. No; women are built that way. The only thing wrong is drawing from the wrong source. You NEED and must be FILLED with the love of our Father in Heaven, a man's love is not enough for you. God's love is a fountain without end, and it's yours when you drink from it. Point your brothers to seek the Almighty, and have them ask Him to teach them how He Loves.

But in the mean time, don’t you dare doubt that you are loved. Don’t you dare.

It’s a hard fight sisters, but your heart is safe in His hands. He will protect you.

Don’t give up, we need women like you who won’t give up. Who can help us turn to God and love you with a love that won’t break you down, that won’t wear you out. Because we want to see you smile. We want to see you happy, we want you to feel safe with us. We want to know your dreams, we want to help you reach them. Believe that a man who loves you will want to know your dreams, and will want to help you reach them.

TAKE COURAGE!!

LOVE NEVER FAILS! HE WILL NOT FAIL YOU!

I wish you every good thing,

Sincerely,

One of your many brothers who really care